To give this a try, make your new habit easy. Choose someone you’ve known for a long time — someone you know is also committed to your friendship. Choose a time for your calls when you’re both available and undistracted. And most importantly, make it extremely easy to jump off the phone. (My “okloveyoubye” is the fastest in the West).
A little bit of effort goes a long way. Next thing you know, you’re living in the moment with your friend and no longer wasting time “catching up.”