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Muddling my way toward boundaries...

And still awkward as hell.

Inspiration for Overthinkers

March 5 · Issue #9 · View online
Tackling stress and anxiety, one experiment at a time.

And still awkward as hell.

Hello dear BVs,
Have you ever been surprised by the sudden vehemence of your feelings about something (or someone)? 
Maybe you knew the feelings were there, nagging away at the back of your mind. Then one day, a random trigger reveals how you really feel.
Out Pops the Cork.
This was me last week.
This was me last week.
This type of sudden emotional kick can really take a person by surprise. In my case, last week I had an angry cork pop. 
This Trigger Won’t Surprise You
I posted a bland but positive political Facebook post. (Yes, naive enough to think it was possible. I was wrong.) There were two rapid-fire negative responses to my post. 
I foolishly thought I'd prepared for social media aggravations like this.
I foolishly thought I'd prepared for social media aggravations like this.
In the past, I may have beat myself up for falling into this Facebook hole. Not this time. This time my response was an alarm bell. My anger at those responses was alerting me it was time to reassess.
I started by trying to understand where the feelings came from. (Not feeling heard about personal, sensitive topics is a recurring theme for me.)
Once I improved my perspective, I figured out new actions. I set Facebook posting and reading limits (one post every 3 days, reading FB only once a day). I researched the political ramifications of my own argument. Finally, I set a new boundary for myself around how I engage on social media. 
3 Ways to Respond to the Exploding Cork
1.  Look for triggers. What could have caused the explosion?
2. Figure out two actions you can take as a result to improve the frustrating situation.
3. If the exploding cork happened as a result of social media, rethink the ways in which using social media helps and hurts you. Amplify the first. Minimize the second.
Love, Meredith
Love, Meredith
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