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Then a crazy thing happened.

Why it's important to face tedious things, even when you don't want to.

Inspiration for Overthinkers

February 10 · Issue #7 · View online
Tackling stress and anxiety, one experiment at a time.

Why it’s important to face tedious things, even when you don’t want to.

Hello fellow BVs,
As many of you know, a few weeks ago I embarked on the first-ever, limited-edition t-shirt sale benefiting the nonprofit Girls Write Now. It worried me at the time. After all, I’d be asking people to buy something whose production I didn’t totally control. What if the shirts were scratchy? What if they didn’t look good?
Would people think less of me or not trust me again?
The day the t-shirts arrived, I was filled with nervous energy. My husband sent on the first photo: “Looks good. It’s a little…small.” When I saw my own shirt later that night, my heart sank. It was at least 2 sizes too small even though I’d bought a larger size than usual. There was no avoiding this problem, though I desperately wanted to.
"The shirt is slightly tight," she captioned, nervously.
"The shirt is slightly tight," she captioned, nervously.
I got messages from shirt-buyers with their kind and bright voices. “I love the shirt but might have to give it to a smaller friend.” 
I wrote Cotton Bureau, makers of the shirt, who replied:
I was confounded and getting angrier by the minute. Why would they send junior-sized shirts? Why would they ask my people to pay for shipping to return those same shirts for a refund, not an exchange? 
I had to make a fast decision. Was I going lay bare the shirt debacle to everyone, possibly escalating it along the way? Or should I just let it go? After all, a bunch of people told me they liked the shirt and were happy, right?
Some of the adorable happy people.
Some of the adorable happy people.
Ugh. My stomach told me I didn’t have a choice. I posted the Cotton Bureau “We-thought-we’d-send-you-junior-sizes-and-no-one-would-be-the-wiser” update on Facebook and emailed as many of the 68 people who bought shirts as I could.
Then a crazy thing happened.
I started to hear back from everyone who thought something was wrong with them. Many friends mentioned weight gain. My mom and mother-in-law both assumed they were too old to look good in the shirt. Actually, anyone over the age 35 imagined they just weren’t cool enough to look good in “what the kids were wearing.”
Right before I started my shirt sizing fight.
Right before I started my shirt sizing fight.
I got a lot more aggressive when I started to receive these messages. How dare a company make my people question themselves with their mistake! 
I pushed harder. I got the company to take responsibility and exchange everyone’s shirts at no cost. They offered to do another 2 week run of the shirt immediately to make sure everyone can get exactly what they want, fully armed with information about the sizing. It starts in the morning.
I'm happy and a little tired.
I’m glad the shirt debacle of early 2017 has a happy ending (even though shit like this tires me out). 
The truth is it’s an honor to receive and share pictures like these of all of you on your own beautiful voyages. In the end, this buoys me up much more than pushes me under the waves.
Love, Meredith
Love, Meredith
P.S. The 3 morals of this story are: Don’t blame yourself. You’re great. Keep fighting. Enjoy the wins as they come. 
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